Written by Andrew Coyne, an employee of the SizeGenetics team.

Premature ejaculation is a condition from which millions of men worldwide have suffered, but you don't have to keep suffering!  Premature ejaculation exercises can help you build stamina and learn control.  Other penis training methods, such as penis traction devices, are also an option, as is seeking medical assistance.  Whatever method you use, don't let premature ejaculation defeat you: you too can build a harder, healthier penis and increase your sexual prowess.

JUST WHAT DOES 'PREMATURE EJACULATION' MEAN?

There are many varying opinions as to what is classified as premature ejaculation. Some people would consider premature ejaculation to be when you accidentally climax after a mere few seconds, whereas other people would classify premature ejaculation as any time a man comes before his partner is ready. In other words, it’s a subjective point. In the US alone, according to various studies, 25-40% of men suffer from what their doctors consider to be premature ejaculation. In fact, if you use the looser definition, nearly every man will experience premature ejaculation at some stage during his lifetime.

WHAT CAUSES PREMATURE EJACULATION?

Premature ejaculation can have a variety of causes, some psychological, others physical.

Psychological causes of premature ejaculation:

• Stress
• Depression
• Unrealistic expectations and ideas
• A history of sexual repression
• Lack of emotional intimacy or confidence
• Miscommunication between partners

Physical causes of premature ejaculation:

• Poor blood flow
• Natural aging
• Genetics
• Lack of ‘sexual training'

In cases where the premature ejaculation is severe it is highly advisable to see a medical professional. However, for milder cases, penis exercises or devices may help or reverse the condition. Even exercises and devices that are alternately used for penis enlargement may have a positive effect, since they strengthen the penis and the associated pelvic muscles.

Similar to the PEGym penis forum, over at SizeGenetics numerous customer testimonials have shown that many people experience improvement in their in-bed prowess and an increase in the ability to “hold on” during sex.

KEGELS FOR PREMATURE EJACULATION

Kegel exercises are one of the best ways to increase the overall health and stamina of the penis. Kegels provide a wide range of sexual benefits, including increased penile blood flow, stronger, harder erections, and an increased ability to control ejaculation and last longer in bed. Kegels can even increase orgasm intensity!

According to the book Great Sex: A Man's Guide to the Secret Principles of Total-Body Sex, by Michael Castleman, “Italian researchers worked with men who reported persistent involuntary ejaculation…Sixty percent said Kegels helped improve their control.”

The pelvic floor muscles targeted by Kegel exercises can be identified by stopping urination in mid-stream. To perform Kegels, simply contract the same muscles when not urinating. See how long you can hold the contraction. Don't worry if this is difficult at first; you can gradually work up to more and longer Kegels. In his “Last Longer In Bed” chapter, Castleman recommends that you “Begin by doing five slow contractions and five quick ones five times a day. Your goal is to be able to do 50 slow and 50 fast three times a day, for a total of 300 contractions a day.”

If you are up to beginning with more Kegels, our “nasal polyps cure

is-exercises/kegel-exercises-for-men/”>Kegel Exercises for Men” article outlines a slightly more challenging pelvic floor muscle penis exercise routine. Kegels should be done every other day, up to three or four times a week, rather than every day. Like any muscles, your pelvic floor muscles need time in between to rest and strengthen. This strengthening should ultimately give you more ejaculatory control.

EDGING AND BALLOONING TO HELP CURE PREMATURE EJACULATION

Edging and ballooning are two other penis exercise techniques that will help you strengthen (and possibly enlarge!) your penis and improve your staying power.

Edging involves masturbating by stroking your penis slowly, starting at the base and moving upwards. When you get too excited or feel the urge to ejaculate, start moving back down towards the base. Try to build up to 20 minutes per edging session before you come.

Ballooning is an advanced form of edging. To practice ballooning, find the super-sensitive “magic spot” on your penis (avoid the frenulum under the head at first, as it may be too sensitive) and rub over and over, using a circular motion, until just before ejaculation. In a ballooning session, your goal is to stay at your maximum hardness for as long as possible without ejaculating. This practice can help you gradually increase your stamina. You may even wind up with a bigger penis!

USE OF PENIS DEVICES TO IMPROVE PREMATURE EJACULATION

Although primarily penis enlargement methods, penis traction devices and exercises force blood to flow into the penis, resulting in a strengthening effect.

A traction device places a tense stretch along the penile shaft. This effectively trains some of the penile tissue, including the cavernous branch and the corpus spongiosum. With the blood now pumping around the penis more freely and powerfully, and thus delivering oxygen to the “trained” parts of the penis, the penis anatomy naturally strengthens.

Users of traction devices soon begin to feel improvements in withholding ejaculation, enabling them to last longer in bed.

OTHER TOOLS AND EXERCISES TO IMPROVE PREMATURE EJACULATION

• When having sex/masturbating, aim to make the session last at least 20 minutes. Even if you have to stop and go… this will train your body to last longer.
• Try the “squeeze exercise.” Stop intercourse just before the point of ejaculation, and have your partner grasp and squeeze your penis just below the head until your erection abates.
• Avoid desensitizing condoms — these often make men go limp, and can desensitize the woman too (if rubbed wrongly), which leads to an overall bad experience.
• Most importantly, try relaxing and enjoying yourself. Too much pressure gets you and your body excited! Women just want to have fun, too.
• If all else fails, new medications are coming out that can help turn minute men into 30-minute men. According to Dr. Ken Goldberg, respected urologist and founder of the Male Health Center, “delayed ejaculation is a known side effect of anti-depressive medications, especially those called SSRIs. Over the past decade, considerable experience has been gained in using them to actually treat premature ejaculation.”

PREMATURE EJACULATION IS CURABLE WITH THE RIGHT EXERCISES!

Even if you find you need medical assistance in your fight against premature ejaculation, penile training can help you increase your stamina and prowess over the long term. Like the rest of your body, your pelvic muscles and the smooth muscle tissue in your penis can become more “muscular” with training, allowing you ultimately to be able to sustain more powerful erections for longer. And it is in the strength of your erection that you will find greater control over your climax.

Premature ejaculation is a frequent sexual complaint and a treatable condition.  Physical conditioning in a man's youth may have encouraged premature ejaculation during masturbation or with partners due to a need for haste during sexual experiences, but practice and various techniques can help retrain the body.

PREMATURE EJACULATION: A COMMON, TREATABLE CONDITION

Many men occasionally ejaculate sooner during sexual intercourse than they or their partner would like, which can be frustrating and humiliating. As long as it happens infrequently, it's not a big cause for concern. However, if you regularly ejaculate sooner than you or your partner wishes (before intercourse begins or shortly afterward), you may have a condition known as premature ejaculation.

Premature ejaculation is just a symptom, and a common sexual complaint. Estimates vary, but as many as one out of three men may be affected by this problem at some time. Both psychological and biological factors can play a role in premature ejaculation.

Although many men feel embarrassed to talk about it, premature ejaculation is a common and treatable condition. It is believed to be a learned response, and is therefore treated in uncomplicated cases by retraining ejaculatory control.

MASTURBATION AND PREMATURE EJACULATION

Masturbation is the deliberate induction of sexually pleasurable sensations in the self by means of physical or psychic stimuli. It is often, but not necessarily, carried to the point of orgasm. Masturbation in one form or another is an almost universal activity among men and is probably equally so among women.

Until recently, active self-induction of sexual pleasure was so heavily discouraged by persons in positions of authority that many individuals feel great guilt and perceive masturbation as a problem, a weakness, or a perversity. The American Medical Association considers ‘Masturbation a normal part of adolescent sexual development.’ Masturbatory frequency is likewise dictated by levels of sexual tension, opportunity, absence of distractions, habi

t, or strength of sexual stimuli. Frequencies varying from several times per day to never are considered normal.

Premature ejaculators are more than often in a hurry in their early sexual experiences, which can condition the body for premature ejaculation during masturbation and with sexual partners. The sexual act is commonly enacted in a situation where urgency and risk of discovery and disapproval from authorities is important (drive-in movies, automobile back seats, living room sofas). In addition, men with premature ejaculation commonly have a history of premarital petting to orgasm by rubbing against their partner while fully clothed.

It is believed that these early sexual experiences of rushing through sexual encounters –- i.e., situations in which one has consistently hurried to reach climax in order to avoid being discovered, or has guilt feelings — may establish a pattern that can be difficult to change later in life.

TREATING PREMATURE EJACULATION
: PRACTICE DURING MASTURBATION OR SEX

The treatment of premature ejaculation is simple but tedious. The subject needs to unlearn the conditioned responses of early sexual experiences and learn new cues by retraining under guidance.

In addition to this, the subject is advised to use the following techniques in various combinations:  the “squeeze” technique, numbing creams or condoms, distraction methods, tantric/yogic breathing techniques, Kegel exercises, experimenting with different sexual positions, circular hip movements, and learning to relax various muscles of body which normally contract during ejaculation.

The only medicines that can help in delaying ejaculation are Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors.

If nothing works for you on a particular day, try just laughing and telling your partner that it happened because she was too hot. By doing this, you can maintain her sexual attraction to you even if you could not last longer in bed.

About Rajinder Sidhu, M.D.

Dr. Sidhu is a medical doctor and a Professor of Physiology at Government Medical College, Amritsar.  He completed a post-doctoral fellowship in Andrology at the Cleveland Clinic Foundation, and has 8 publications in scientific journals. He has presented papers on the topic of male sexual health to conferences around the world, and is currently working on developing a study on the effects of penile exercising.

This article explains a unique and widely unknown male erogenous zone known as the “Male G-spot”, its anatomical location, and how to make it a source of pleasure for help with masturbation, edging, and ballooning principles.

The Male G-Spot?

Yes, there is one!

My goal is to share the sexual health information. That said, pull up a comfy chair, relax, and enjoy the information.

Where is it?

It is that spot that is located on the other side of the rectum wall near the prostate, below the bladder. It is accessible through the rectum, and also externally through on the underside of the pubic area between the testicles and rectum.

How is it Stimulated?

First off, this can be done by yourself, or by a knowledgeable partner. Your G spot does not know or care about the sex of the other person, nor what specifically the object causing the stimulation is.

If a man is lying on his back, with the other person between his legs, a finger is inserted palm side up, and the similar to a “come here” finger movement is made, motioning towards his penis, they will feel a chestnut sized mound – the male G spot.

The male G spot feels like a firm bulge about the size of a walnut. This is where a Doctor would examine a mans Prostate gland. You may recall, the Latex glove, a squirt of cold gel lubricant, and your doctor begins, “digit insertion”, and usually is carrying on with some perfectly innocent conversation that means nothing.

What Now?

Guys, you would be best to locate your G spot by yourself, experiment and explore first. This way you can advise your partner as to where it is, and what to do with it and for last longer sex. Massage may be circular with a slight pressure. What feels best to you will have to be discovered by experimentation.

Hygiene is important. A latex glove may be used. Not having long fingernails, or nails with sharp edges should also be a cons

ideration. There are devices sold specifically for stimulative activity.

Remember also, if you are accustomed to the location of their Male G-spot, it’s also possible to access it by pressing up under the pubic region between the testicles and the rectum.

The Reward, Possibilities

Quoted from the Aneros.com site:

“With practice utilizing anal kegel exercises, you can achieve a hands-free prostate massage like no other, ultimately achieving male orgasms like you've never experienced before or, You may need to use physical stimulation.”

From Wikipedia:

“It is also possible that strengthening the pelvic floor may allow some men to achieve a form of orgasm without allowing ejaculation, and thereby perhaps reach multiple “climaxes” during sexual activity for better sex”

Some men are able to ejaculate while their prostate glands are massaged, without even stimulating their penises. (This can be a moment that can be almost mind altering). Finding out what method works best for any individual, is the normal.

Also, many men are eventually able to learn a technique known as “Multiple Male Orgasms” or “MMOs”. This is where a man can have an orgasm without ejaculation, and then repeat the process multiple times before eventual (or not) ejaculation. The Male G-spot can be very useful in assisting in achieving this effect.

Curious for more? That’s good, because there is a vast cornucopia of information out there for consumption by even the most casual observer. Also, the Male G-spot might prove very useful in the future for newer, more effective means for edging longer and harder. Same may hold true with ballooning.

A recommended first read is Prostate Massage and Health

Search terms as “male g spot”, “prostate stimulation”, “prostate orgasm” will help you begin. Google away, to Infinity and Beyond!

The point of this article is to describe what Dry Orgasms (DO) are, and to provide specific guidance for men wishing to learn how to have these types of orgasms.

WHAT IS A DRY ORGASM?

Most male orgasms include both orgasm (a feeling of sexual release and pleasure) and ejaculation (the forceful discharge of semen from the penis). This is not always true however.

A dry orgasm is one that does not include ejaculation. Yes, this is possible!
With a DO you experience the feelings of orgasm, but do not ejaculate and thus do not lose your erection, allowing you to last longer at sex.

DRY ORGASM AND MULTIPLE MALE ORGASMS MINI-WIKI- A REVIEW

To understand how DOs and MMO work, you first need to be familiar with these terms:

DO (dry orgasm): is when a male is able to experience the feelings of orgasm, but does not ejaculate and thus not losing his erection, allowing to last longer in bed.

MMO (male multiple orgasm): is the ability to achieve more than one orgasm from a single erection.

PC/BC muscles: Pelvic floor muscles important for controlling ejaculation. For more information see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pelvic_floor

Kegel: A contraction of the PC/BC muscles.

Reverse kegel: a forceful relaxation of the PC/BC muscles accomplished by contracting other abdominal muscles.

Point of No Return (PONR): The point in sexual stimulation where ejaculation becomes inevitable.

Edging edging is masturbating and stopping right before you ejaculate. Once your urge to ejaculate has subsided, you repeat the process as many times as you'd like.

EQ: Erection quality; generally judged by oneself based on a 1-10 scale, with 1 being the poorest erection quality and 10 being a completely hard penis and raging erection.

Partial Ejaculation: An ejaculation that is partly suppressed by a hard kegel contraction with the result that only a portion of the normal amount of ejaculate (semen) is actually expelled.

Retrograde Ejaculation: An ejaculation event in which the ejaculate ends up in the bladder.

BEGINNING DRY ORGASMS

Now you are ready to try to separate orgasm and ejaculation. Try this: while edging, focus on what you feel as you approach the point of no return, or the PONR. As you get closer, stop stroking and immediately kegel very hard and hold it.

As you feel yourself moving away from the PONR, relax the kegel exercises and resume stroking. Repeat the process, each time getting a bit closer to the PONR. Keep doing this. Eventually, one of the following will occur:

a) You will get reach the PONR and orgasm and ejaculate. This is not a problem. Enjoy the experience and try again later.

b) You will balance on the edge of the PONR, you may or may not orgasm, and you will likely experience a Partial Ejaculation (some semen will come out, but not your usual amount). You will then feel your erection begin to subside. Try to bring your erection back and see if you can mak

e yourself cum. If you cannot, don't worry, you will be able to do this later.

c) You will ejaculate into your bladder. This is known as Retrograde Ejaculation. It is not harmful but because you actually ejaculated, you will probably lose your erection immediately as with a normal ejaculation.

d) You will experience an orgasm without ejaculating. This is the fabled Dry Orgasm or DO! You may or may not experience ejaculation contractions. The first few times you DO, the orgasm experience may be much less intense than that of a regular wet orgasm (with ejaculation). With practice your dry orgasm ability will increase in intensity until they are like those you experience with wet orgasms.

The timing can be a bit tricky so don't get discouraged if it takes you make many attempts before you achieve a DO. Also keep in mind that significant PC/BC muscle strength is required.

Focus on what you feel as you approach PONR, and practice using kegel and reverse kegel exercises to get closer to the PONR and back off from it. Knowing where you are in the process is key. The more you learn about your body and the more you practice, the easier this will become.

MAINTAINING YOUR ERECTION AFTER A DRY ORGASM

At first your dry orgasm ability will likely be inconsistent and may also routinely be followed by a loss of EQ. You will not entirely lose your erection, but you will lose some penis size hardness at first as you get used to the process.

Keep in mind that a DO will be a very new experience for your body and that years of
training have taught your body.

• that sex ends with orgasm and
• that orgasm means ejaculation.

You need to retrain your body to recognize orgasm and ejaculation as distinct events and to treat them as such. With practice, you will be able to achieve DO more regularly and also maintain your erection after and through the dry orgasm.

KEEP YOUR FOCUS ON MAINTAINING YOUR ERECTION

Once you can achieve a DO, practice resuming stimulation sooner and sooner afterward.
This may be a bit uncomfortable at first. Motivation may also be a problem, as the afterglow from your orgasm may make maintaining an erection seem like a low priority.

However, if you want to become capable of MMOs, you will want to work to regain a complete erection as soon as possible, or to not lose EQ at all. Don't worry if you cannot dry orgasm a second time or maintain your second erection for long. Those will come with practice.

TRANSITION TO MULTIPLE MALE ORGASMS

Moving from DOs to becoming MMO requires both practice and motivation. Most men find that it is much easier to achieve these solo – without a partner – because it is easier to control stimulation levels. It can be much harder to stop ejaculation when engaged in active sex with a partner.

Once you can DO solo and maintain an erection, try reaching a second orgasm. Attempt another DO if you wish, or just have a regular wet orgasm. Once you can do this, you are experiencing a full on MMO (multiple male orgasm) session!

As your control and skills improve, you may find that you are able to string several DOs together and have as many Multiple Male Orgasms as you wish, all without losing your erection. This is hard to achieve but is possible with extended practice…. and it can be a great deal of fun!

For more information: PEGym Forums – Multiple Male Orgasm and Dry Orgasms

This article discusses a common sexual hindrance amongst many men; cumming too fast, A.K.A premature ejaculation. This article helps offer a simple solution for men that struggle with premature ejaculation; The Kegel exercise, and gives an in depth but simple method for performing a successful Kegel exercise regimen.

LASTING LONGER
Its been a great night on the town. Possibly with a significant other you’ve been seeing, or with someone you’ve just met. Nevertheless, the situation becomes obvious that they want to go back home and have sex with you. You want to as well, but then you begin to think about every man’s nightmare… premature ejaculation. Is lasting longer an impossibility? No, its not, and here’s how to beat this dilemma!

LASTING LONGER AND THE TENDENCY FOR MEN TO CUM TOO FAST

Many men are horrified of this situation, and with good reason. Cumming too quickly, or a condition known as premature ejaculation, robs you and your partner of the pleasure of sexual intercourse. This is believed to be the most common sexual complaint of couples. An estimated 20-30% of men are reportedly bothered regularly by these episodes (1) and desperately desire to learn the almighty skill of lasting longer.

There can be multiple causes for a man to “cum” prematurely. Biologically, men experience climax much earlier than women. This may seem due to the obvious biological purpose for reproduction. Women need not have an orgasm to procreate. Men, however, must cum in order to replicate their genes.

IS LASTING LONGER “ALL IN YOUR HEAD”?

Likewise, there are also several psychological considerations that can lead to premature ejaculation. These include anxiety (lack of experience), fear of sexually transmitted infections, potential pregnancy, etc. Older men often report to be able to control their ejaculation as compared with their younger counterparts. They largely credit lasting longer to their experience.

What can be done to last longer during sex? One of the most popular ways discussed here on the PEGym is to exercise your PC muscle (pubococcygeus) by performing Kegel exercises, Your PC muscle is the primary “sexual muscle” that forms part of the pelvis. The PC muscle is largely involved with sexual functions such as ejaculation and orgasm.

WHERE IS THE PC MUSCLE LOCATED?

Try stopping the flow of your urine midway. The PC muscle, located between the anus and scrotum, is the one you contracts when you try to stop the flow of your urine.

By doing regular Kegel exercises, this muscle can provide firmer and larger penis erecti

ons, powerful ejaculations and more intense climaxes.

EXERCISING THE PC MUSCLE HELPS WITH LASTING LONGER

Luckily for sufferers of premature ejaculation, exercising the PC muscle is potentially the most easiest exercise to perform. It can be done standing, sitting down, or even lying down. What exercise is it? None other than the Kegel.

Kegel exercises are performed the same way a male (or female) would stop the flow of urine. It’s that “clinching” feeling that most men also use to push out the last bit of urine at the end of the male urination process.

Now, as far as a successful Kegel routine, there are many reported routines and regimens that are believed to work optimally. The most common routine we see here on the PEGym for lasting longer is to do 50 contractions at a regular pace (what feels natural) while then taking a break from anywhere from 1-10 minutes, then repeat for 3-4 overall total sets of 50 Kegels.

And remember to take a complete day off for rest at least every 3 days! Over-training the PC muscle does happen if you do too many kegels too often.

LASTING LONGER WITH KEGELS

Kegeling regularly is simple and easy. You can do it just about anytime and anywhere. There is no device or contraption needed to exercise your PC muscle. However, as with all exercise regimens, to see the best results you should commit to a routine if you are aiming to receive the maximum benefits from doing Kegels in order to begin lasting longer in bed. Many male porn stars accredit their faithful devotion to regular Kegeling with a greater ability to make explosive “cumshots”.

So, the next time you and your partner begin having sex, enter your partner then pause for a moment. Don't immediately begin to thrust in and out, simply  try tightening and relaxing your PC muscle.

You also have to keep in mind that different people also prefer various types of sex. Some prefer the long and sensual approach, while others favor a more rough, pounding style. Regardless, it's always better to know your partner's preference so that you can both enjoy the prolonged intimate sexual fun that comes with a knack for lasting longer!

REFERENCES

1. http://www.news-medical.net/news/2004/05/12/1455.aspx

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While grandpa is busy experiencing ED (erectile dysfunction), younger men often experience another problem: PE (premature ejaculation).

Premature Ejaculation

Erectile over-function, commonly known as premature ejaculation, is a penis that is over-charged, over-loaded, and usually ready to blow.

Kegels for Premature Ejaculation

For many men, doing Kegel exercises have not only stopped premature ejaculation, but have also lead to male multiple orgasms.

Kegels are the most essential exercise for any man wanting to improve his penis and his sex life. They are essential for a healthy penis, for enlargement and for stopping premature ejaculation.

Stop Premature Ejaculation

Other ways to stop premature ejaculation include:

• Relaxing. Most men dwell on the premature ejaculation problem, and this only begets more problems. They key is to focus on calming your mind. Take deep breaths, avoid getting too excited and enjoy the moment.
• Using a condom. According to the Durex Condom’s Global Sex Survey, guys who wear condoms during sex last three minutes longer in the bedroom than the men who don’t.
• Taking your time during foreplay. The benefits here are two-fold. Not only do longer bouts of foreplay help a man last longer in the sack, but it also helps a woman go even quicker once intercourse starts.
• Ballooning and edging. The idea behind “ballooning” and “edging” techniques is to continually build up to the point of right before you’re about to ejaculate, and then stop. Once your arousal subsides, start all over again. By continually stopping and starting, you’ll become more in tune with your arousal AND teach your body to last longer.

Build up your sexual energy and have multiple orgasms. According to authors of The Multi-Orgasmic Man, Douglas Abrams and Mantak Chia, you can have multiple orgasms by pushing your body’s natural “chi” throughout your body while having sex (along with combining the techniques above). These orgasms aren’t the same simple release of the seed that you’re accustomed to – they’re dry orgasms. That is, orgasms without the ejaculation.

Follow these simple steps to make your “Sex Muscle” stronger and harder with the Kegel exercise.

Kegel Every OTHER Day:

Recall that your pelvic floor muscles are actually skeletal muscles, just like your biceps and triceps. Accordingly, the pelvic floor muscles need rest to nourish and grow, just like your other muscles. So you’ll want to avoid kegeling daily, as you don’t overtrain. For this reason, only Kegel three to four days a week.

Your Kegel Routine

• For the first few weeks, do 50 Kegels every other day. Each Kegel should be contracted for one to five seconds, depending on the strength of your “Sex Muscle.” The first time you Kegel, your contractions probably wont last much longer than a second or two. With more exercise and experience, your Sex Muscle will become much stronger and your contractions will last much longer.

• Overtime, gradually incorporate more Kegels into your routine. Work up to five to ten minutes a day, four days a week. This should be fairly easy to do, since you can do Kegels anywhere, anytime. Many penile exercisers do them on their morning commute to work, for example. Eventually, spice it up and try holding your Kegels for as long as possible.

Longer sex & more pleasure

Once your Sex Muscle is strong, you’ll have the ability to stop yourself from ejaculating. To do this, you’ll need to be able to hold a tight Kegel contraction for at least 10 seconds. Once you can do that, try the following method for delaying ejaculation:

• Right before you hit the “point of no return” – the point where semen starts moving through the penis and ejaculation is inevitable – do a kegel.
• Hold the contraction for roughly 10 seconds or more.
• After the urge to ejaculate has subsided, release the squeeze.

It’s that easy! The hard part is building up your sex muscle so that it’s strong enough to withstand the pressure of ejaculating. Accordingly, this process takes a few weeks or more… Many men also report that learning exactly when to Kegel is another hard part of the process; and this part can take practice, patience, and a lot of tries (which isn’t necessarily a bad thing), but is well worth the end result.

This article has been adapted by the editor of PEGym.com, from the guide written by Minuteman. The guide content is subject to change.

Note: This guide is for attempting to dry orgasm solo. But all the knowledge here transitions well into sex. Responsibility: By reading this guide, you and you alone bear the responsibility for attempting exercises, techniques and methods that are described or mentioned in this guide, so you attempt all this at your own risk, you have been warned.

Motivated by the current rise in interest about dry orgasms, despite the fact there is information about this in the Premature Ejaculation Forum, Minuteman creases a comprehensive guide on dry orgasms and how to achieve them. He is also motivated by the desire to help others to avoid possible injuries while attempting dry orgasm. Many PE’ers who attempt dry orgasms for the first time become (understandably) demotivated to pursue multiple male orgasms (MMO) further, due to the difficulties experienced when attempting dry orgasm. Minuteman was lucky to to have one of his first dry orgasms be a clean one. This proved to him one can attempt dry orgasm and suffer absolutely no discomfort when done right.

When performed correctly, dry orgasms can lead to multiple male orgasms.

Introduction to Dry Orgasms

I used dry orgasm as one of the first tools to overcome premature ejaculation. While I was actively doing it, I was able to with relative ease. However, I stopped since I had no partner and decided to pursue other more traditional ways of fixing premature ejaculation. I knew there will always be times when doing a dry orgasm will be too difficult, due to various distractions. In doing so, I learned a lot.

• In the first part of this guide, I will introduce the basic definition and elements of dry orgasm to eliminate any confusion with terms and also to clarify many points.
• In the second, third and fourth parts, I will discuss in depth each of the elements needed for a successful dry orgasm.
• In the fifth part, I will describe the entire dry orgasm process, including the things leaned from the previous parts and other tips.

Part I – Terminology, Classifications, Definitions, and Reasoning

Note: I assume you know what terms like: edging, ballooning, kegel, reverse kegel, root lock (back kegel) , reverse root lock (reverse back kegel) mean. If you don’t, pleas educate yourself on those terms first, then come back here. If I were to decribe all of these terms here, the length of this would quickly go from a guide to a book.

1) What is a Dry Orgasm? -  Differentiating Between Medical Terms and MMO Terms

If you Google around a bit, you will read many sources say dry orgasm and retrograde ejaculation are the same or one leads to another, since nothing comes out of your penis. However, in MMO terminology dry orgasm is different.

Retrograde ejaculation happens when the path for sperm to come out of your penis is obstructed or the bladder sphincter is not functioning properly. Since your sperm doesn’t have anywhere to go, it goes into your bladder. Dry orgasm, in this medical sense, is the feeling that occurs when retrograde ejaculation happens.  This is why most of the time when one refers to dry orgasm, in non-MMO terms, it refers to retrograde ejaculation. Just to be clear, these medical terms are valid in their definitions; however, since MMO also uses the term dry orgasm it can become a source of confusion.

Other types of medical dry orgasm occurs in younger males when they ejaculate numerous times within a short amount of time. This is due to the fact the testes are unable to produce enough sperm, but only able to provide the spasm that occurs with orgasm and nothing to ejaculate.

In MMO terms, dry orgasm occurs when you have an orgasm without ejaculation but during the time you should be ejaculating. This is done by stopping the expulsion part of ejaculation, with kegel holds, reverse kegel holds or some other method (these alternative methods are not explored or suggested in this guide since their safety hasn’t been determined).

Proper dry orgasm is made up of 3 components: strength, technique and timing.

2) Strength, Technique, Timing – The Essential Components of Dry Orgasm

There are three elements that determine whether the dry orgasm is performed properly or improperly. In order to have a dry orgasm the way it is meant to be, you must learn how to be proficient in all three of components. The better you are, the better dry orgasm you will have.

• STRENGTH – The strength of the kegel hold needed to shut down the spasms that occur.
• TECHNIQUE – The proper way of moving your kegel to make your hold more effective.
• TIMING – The correct time when you should hold your kegel to properly preform a dry orgasm.

3) Types of Dry Orgasms

There are three bad and two good types of dry orgasms. The bad ones I list are for identification. The goal is to learn how to perform the two good ones.

Bad Dry Orgasms

1. Dribble Ejaculation – This one happens most of the time when your kegel hold is not strong enough to attempt a dry orgasm. In a way, this one is the most harmless of the bad ones, since in the end all of the sperm goes out albeit very slow. Note: Dribble ejaculation can also occur normally when your pelvic floor is unbalanced and your reverse kegels are stronger than kegels, or your kegels are just weak. After dribble ejaculation, everything happens as with regular ejaculation.
2. Partial Ejaculation – This happens when your timing is off and part of your ejaculation gets out. The remainder of the ejaculation either goes into your bladder (Partial-Retro) or doesn’t and is reabsorbed. This depends on both your technique and strength. Depending if the retro was included or not, you will go flaccid very fast and most of the time unable to retain both arousal and erection. As before, if without retro you likely will feel slight disconfort but lose little of your erection and arousal. Even though partial ejaculations may feel “good enough,” avoid having this type of orgasm and do not settle for them.
3. Retro Ejaculation – This happens when your technique is not good enough and is the one most people experience. You should avoid retro ejaculation at all costs, since it can injure you. You will have a huge drop in both arousal and erection, and your penis might even turtle a little. Most of the time, you will feel discomfort. In order to check if you have in fact had retro ejaculation, after you attempt a dry orgasm, try and urinate in a cup and see how cloudy it is. If it is cloudy (you will spot it at once), you have retro ejaculated.

Good DOs

1. Clean DO (or just Dry Orgasm) – This is the one you want. Clean dry orgasm happens when your strength and timing is right on the money. The technique is good enough. You will feel no discomfort during this dry orgasm. Your erection will drop just a little, due to the kegel hold, but your arousal and desire will remain as they where. It is up to you if you want to now take it slow or ejaculate or do another one. You will have approximately three spasms of decreasing strength. The first spasm is the one that you turn into a kegel hold, the second one will happen and, if your hold is strong enough, it will be of much decreased strength (you will barely feel it). The third one will be almost non-existent. If you experience more than three spasms, they will usually result in retrograde ejaculation or another of the bad types. The feeling of a good dry orgasm is very unique, even though it is an orgasm without an ejaculation. Most of the time, you will know if you have done it.
2. Perfect DOs – This is the best form. This is the ideal dry orgasm when you have a kegel hold activated in specific way (technique) and specific strength (strength) and at a specific time (timing) that it STOPS all other spasms after the first one. In other words, you completely stop the ejaculation. You are left with the orgasmic feeling, no erection drop at all and your arousal is intact. That is what anyone who is practicing dry orgasm should aim for after clean dry orgasms. You are left a slightly before the point of no return. However, in essence this one is all technique. People with premature ejaculation might even encounter this one by accident while preforming start and stop with a kegel hold. It is bad practice to rely just on technique, because in order for this one to occur all the time you have to have all three parts perfect.

4) The Reverse Kegel Hold Dry Orgasm (And Why I Haven’t Included it Here)

As you will notice while reading this guide, there is no mention of dry orgasms achieved by reverse kegels, even though you might have run into people mentioning them in PEGym.com forums.

Here are some reasons I won’t be “teaching” how to RKDO:

• I am not able to do it: This is the first and most important reason why. The whole point of this guide is to create a safe and well-defined environment where you can attempt dry orgasm with little to no risk. If I don’t know about details of RKDO, I am not going to give you some half-hearted explanation.
• Not every reverse kegel hold you do and point of no return is a RKDO. This is the same as the fact that not every kegel hold is a dry orgasm, even if you are near the point of no return, because you are not stopping spasm kegel but just an involuntary one. However, due to now knowing those details, people usually clam they are able to RKDO. Until you are able to constantly produce similar results under the same circumstances you should not be sure of it.
• It’s against the natural flow. Reverse kegeling goes against the normal flow of the ejaculation process. In timing mastery, I do tell you to hold the kegel but in a way it can (and will) be overpowered by a spasm kegel, so you can get the timing down. There you can feel and see that it is the natural flow.
• Fully stopping a spasm kegel after a long and highly-aroused session is like waiting for somebody to punch you full force in the face. In contrast, turning a kegel spasm into a conscious kegel hold is like avoiding that punch and using the inertia to make it stronger,is the way you end up with a very strong kegel hold. However, in order to fully use that strength you have to be conditioned.

While there are people who swear by it, I can’t with clear conscience recommend you something like that.

In that light, I also want to warn you to always use your own judgement. Do not follow or trust this guide or me blindly, even though I have done everything I could to protect you from many problems that may occur and I have also followed the basic ideas while I was learning how to dry orgasm. This doesn’t mean there is nothing I am not aware of. If while performing the routines or mastering other aspects you feel or find something is fundamentally wrong, you should not continue this activity.

Regular ejaculation helps keep the pipes clean.

5) The Importance of Ejaculation

In time, you will gain the ability to have a dry orgasm. For some, ejaculation might start to seem pointless, since when you experience the first dry orgasm in a session you don’t feel much need to actually ejaculate and, in a way, feel satisfied. This mostly happens in the beginning stage of dry orgasming, when the brain is still mixing the signals from ejaculation with dry orgasming.

The thing to note here is ejaculation is a process that is good for the body. One of the most important things is it cleans the “pipes” and the prostate. In terms of men’s health, this is very, very important. If you continue to have dry orgasms and no ejaculations, you can become clogged and many of the secretions will be in your prostate. This can cause problems. On the other side of the equation, too frequent ejaculations might not benefit you or simply make you too tired. You should ejaculate at least once a week.

If you are dry orgasming, things change. You should ejaculate two to three days maximum after a dry orgasm session, in order to force the fluids that generate (mostly precum) out. For people who just started dry orgasming, this should be a rule.

For those who are seasoned dry orgasmers, they should ejaculate at the end of every session or the next day. Also, keep in mind you should not always dry orgasm. Having normal masturbation or sex that doesn’t involve dry orgasming at all is highly recommended. Mix it up!

If you had a dry orgasm and you feel a sort of preassure or fatigue in your testicles,  and if you are hard enough to ejaculate, you should. This will decrease the fatigue or eventual pain (the “blue balls”).

6) Why is This So Long and Complicated? It’s Just a Kegel Hold at the Right Time, Right?

The simple answer to this question is — to protect you. An alarming amount of people will try to perform a dry orgasm when they are not conditioned enough. This can sometimes lead to injury. Because of this, most later on become uninterested and don’t see the point of dry orgams. This especially happens when they didn’t perform it right. Who’s to blame them? This guide was written to make dry orgasms as easy as it can be.

There are two  more reasons this is so long:

• To make you confident. By dry orgasming the right way the first, second or even third time, you will gain confidence in your sexual ability. Now you will always have some foundation to go back to. It might not sound like much right now, but once you have had your clean dry orgasm, you will find yourself agreeing.
• To condition you. Dry orgasm is for many an entry point for MMO. By learning how to do this the right way, you open the door to many advanced experiences. Many of them will come naturally later on. Even for premature ejaculation problems, this way of conditioning will make you well-prepared to utilize any premature ejaculation techniques, with a much better understanding and ability than a beginner.

Do not fool yourself! MMO requires A LOT OF WORK AND DEDICATION. Some might be lucky or innate and be able to achieve this with little to no problems, but for most it isn’t that easy.

7) The Importance of Feedback

In order for this guide to be validated further, user feedback is of utmost importance. This means if you are reading this guide and using material from it, you should return the favor by posting here and telling us/me your opinion about it and even more importantly your experiences. In this way, I can make this guide even better, and you are helping others the way I may have helped you.

Even though I have tried my best to cover all the bases, this is nearly impossible without feedback. Some things I may have forgotten to mention and others may not have even occurred to me.

8) The Responsibility

Even though this guide tries its best to warn you (probably much more than is needed) and, via exercises and preparation, tries to protect you from any injuries and accidents that may happen, you and you alone bear the responsibility for attempting exercises, techniques and methods that are described in this guide. Attempt all of this at your own risk.

Along with penis size, stamina in the bedroom is a real concern for many men. Although there are ways to work around issues with premature ejaculation and satisfying your partner, being unable to control your orgasm can frustrating and can wreak havoc on the ego. This is where climax control condoms have entered the marketplace.

Climax control condoms use Benzocaine to desensitize the penis.

What Are Climax Control Condoms?

Climax control condoms, as the name implies, are designed to help control ejaculation. Sometimes referred to as “extended pleasure” condoms, these condoms have a special lubricant that is purported to help with premature ejaculation. What is this special lubricant?  Benzocaine.

Benzocaine is a topical pain reliever. This local anesthetic is often found in over-the-counter mouth pain treatments, such as Anbesol, Cepacol and Carmex. It is also sometimes found in ear drops used for the treatment of inner ear pain. The Benzocaine provides a slight numbing of the nerve endings where it is applied.

Climax control condoms can help minimize sensation to help prevent premature ejaculation.

Pros About Climax Control Condoms

For men who have extreme premature ejaculation problems, the numbing sensation of the climax control condom can help minimize the sensation, and therefore control orgasm. If you find yourself orgasming at first entry, or worse – at first touch!, the numbing may be just what you need to get past this instantaneous orgasm. Also, most women don’t notice any different sensation, than any other condom.

Climax control condoms can work too well, completely numbing the penis and preventing ejaculation or causing a loss of erection.

Cons About Climax Control Condoms

For some men, the numbing sensation is simply too much. Many users have reported having trouble orgasming with climax control condoms. It appears you the Benzocaine can take men from one extreme (premature ejaculation) to the other (unable to ejaculate).  Some have even reported the loss of erection, due to the loss of feeling in the penis, or an uncomfortable burning sensation, causing loss of erection. Occasionally, the numbness is also experienced by women, which can then be frustrating for both partners.

30% of men under the age of 60 report experiencing premature ejaculation at least once over the last 12 months.

Premature ejaculation occurs when a man orgasms with very little sexual stimulation. Premature ejaculation is also known as – early ejaculation, rapid ejaculation, rapid climax, premature climax, and  ejaculation praecox.

Under the age of 60, premature ejaculation is the most common sexual dysfunction in men. According to the University of Chicago’s “Sex in America” surveys, conducted in 1999 and 2008, researchers found approximately 30% of men reported experiencing premature ejaculation at least once within the last 12 months. Compare this to only 10% of the same men reporting erectile dysfunction during the last 12 months, and it becomes clear premature ejaculation is a much more common problem.

There are a variety of treatments available to help men with premature ejaculation, including exercises designed to help delay ejaculation, psychological counseling and cognitive behavioral therapy. For some, medications are a viable course of premature ejaculation treatment.

Medication Overview for the Treatment of Premature Ejaculation

There are two types of medications typically prescribed for the treatment of premature ejaculation — antidepressants and topical anesthetic cream. Although none of these are specifically approved by the FDA for premature ejaculation treatment, they are often used for this purpose. Oftentimes, the patient and doctor have to use trial and error to discover the medications and dosages that are most effective.

Prozac is one antidepressant whose side effect can be used to treat premature ejaculation.

Antidepressants for Premature Ejaculation

One side effect of some antidepressants is delayed orgasm. As such, your doctor may prescribe an antidepressant for premature ejaculation, due to this side effect. However, there are other side effects that must be taken into consideration, before going this route. These include – nausea, drowsiness, dry mouth, and a decreased libido, which may negate the whole purpose of the treatment. Possible antidepressants for premature ejaculation treatment include selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs):

• Sertraline (Zoloft)
• Paroxetine (Paxil)
• Fluoxetine (Prozac)

These may take up to 10 days, to show the desired delayed orgasm effect. If SSRIs do not help with your premature ejaculation, your doctor may prescribe clomipramine (Anafranil). This tricyclic antidepressant has also been beneficial for men with premature ejaculation issues.

These medications may not need to be taken every day, to help prevent premature ejaculation. Some doctors recommend simply taking a low dose several hours before planned sexual intercourse, to help delay orgasm.

Anesthetic creams with lidocaine and/or prilocaine can also be used to treat premature ejaculation.

Topic Anesthetic Creams for Treatment of Premature Ejaculation

The topical anesthetic creams used for treatment of premature ejaculation typically contains lidocaine and/or prilocaine, which dulls the penis’s sensation, delaying ejaculation. The creams are applied before sex, and then wiped off when your penis has lost the desired amount of sensation.

One challenge to the anesthetic creams comes with some reports from female partners. Although the cream is wiped off before sex, there have been reports of reduced sensitivity of the female’s genitalia. Also, in very rare cases, some people have experienced an allergic reaction to the lidocaine or prilocaine in the cream.

Great Article

Good general article. However, I wish you had not included Antidepressants as “medications” for treating premature ejaculation. It was an antidepressant that actually CAUSED my sexual dysfunction, including severe premature ejaculation. I haven’t taken it for four years and I still have the issue.

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Average time to cum is1.8 mins of stimulation on average for men with PE?? Would love to last so long! I can barely last a few seconds!!

have you tried Akiyo to solve this issue? PM me for more details

EVERYONE. I am so stoked right now. I’ve been a victim of pe for years now, I’m 18, and it caused a lot of depression for me. Well now i’m in college, and i’ve been fucking like a porn star. I’ve been using a lot of condoms so thats part of it but i’ve noticed big changes in my skill. IT’s ALL MENTAL! a little physical, all i started doing for my physical side was masturbating at least 15 to 20 minutes when i do masturbate. I’ve been fucking every night this week and my girl keeps coming back for me. I’m not even using my mouth she just likes to have sex. Physically i didn’t do much, but mentally i have this confidence now that i can fuck forever and it feels so good. to anyone suffering from pe, you are almost out of the woods and it feels so good to be on the other side. Tonight, I didn’t even finish, and i had to get her to finish me off for what felt like 30 to 40 minutes of having sex. The condoms I use are Trojan ENZ, just basic. Maybe try them out. Also, I noticed the other night i was super baked and had sex, and i didn’t even finish. Something about me being high makes my mind think a lot so it distracts me i Guess. But anyways boys, keep going but at the same time just say ” WHAT THE FUCK, WHO CARES ANYMORE.” I feel like a god right now and I want you guys to feel it too.

as first comment says, practicing with masturbation in combination with xperform spray makes wonders to me. also condom and your good to go.

Hey QportX,

Does this product taste like anything? Did your girlfriend or partner get turned off by the use of the spray?

So what did actually helped you? or what did you do to solve this problem?

Shit. I’ve always had the extreme opposite. I have to really focus and concentrate to get my nut. 1/3 of the time I can’t nut at all. All the other times it takes 15 to 30 mins to nut. I would be so happy to trade with you, lol.